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Common Lasting Impacts from The Group
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What is Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?
While PTSD is caused by a single traumatic event, C-PTSD is caused by long-lasting trauma that continues or repeats for months, even years (commonly referred to as "complex trauma").
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What is Disassociation?
Most researchers view dissociation as a protective response after trauma. It allows people to function and go about their day-to-day lives by blocking trauma-related emotions and memories that could otherwise be overwhelming.
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Intrusive Thoughts and Memories
People living with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) often experience intrusive thoughts that may be connected to a traumatic event. These thoughts may trigger some of the physical symptoms of PTSD. In some cases, these thoughts can be so severe they lead to flashbacks and intense psychological distress.
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Black and White Thinking
Black and white thinking is the tendency to think in extremes, such as an all or nothing mindset. This thought pattern, which the American Psychological Association also calls dichotomous or polarized thinking, is considered a cognitive distortion because it keeps us from seeing the world as it often is: complex, nuanced, and full of all the shades in between.
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Oversharing
Oversharing is a habit many of us experience from time to time, particularly during seasons of great emotional stress or trauma. Oversharing is a coping mechanism, a trauma response, and also a habit that can negatively affect our reputation and our relationships. Oversharing can have more impact on your life than mere embarrassment and later regret. Impacts that can affect your career, your relationships, or even your self-esteem.
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Lack of Boundaries
The word “boundary” can be a bit misleading. It conveys the idea of keeping yourself separate. But boundaries are actually connecting points since they provide healthy rules for navigating relationships, intimate or professional. Boundaries give a sense of agency over one’s physical space, body, and feelings.
High Control Groups Program Members to Fear Mental Health Help
High control groups program their members away from mental health help. For many trapped inside of a high control group, the norm is not to seek out qualified, professional help for anxiety, depression or any mental health issues. This does not have to be the case.
Survivor Recommended Healing
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Somatic Experiencing
Somatic experiencing therapy is a type of alternative therapy geared towards helping people find healing from trauma. This therapy works on the principle that trauma gets trapped in the body, leading to some of the symptoms people with PTSD or people who have experienced trauma might experience. Through this method, practitioners work on releasing this stress from the body.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive behavioral therapy focuses on the relationship among thoughts, feelings, and behaviors; targets current problems and symptoms; and focuses on changing patterns of behaviors, thoughts and feelings that lead to difficulties in functioning. CBT helps you become aware of inaccurate or negative thinking so you can view challenging situations more clearly and respond to them in a more effective way.
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Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing
EMDR aims to reduce symptoms of trauma by changing how your memories are stored in your brain. In a nutshell, an EMDR therapist does this by leading you through a series of bilateral (side-to-side) eye movements as you recall traumatic or triggering experiences in small segments, until those memories no longer cause distress.
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Dialectical Behavior Therapy - DBT
DBT is a type of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Its main goals are to teach people how to live in the moment, develop healthy ways to cope with stress, regulate their emotions, and improve relationships with others. DBT helps with the development of mindfulness skills as well as using your senses to tune into what’s happening around you in nonjudgemental ways.
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Rapid Resolution Therapy
RRT is a type of therapy that helps folks address self-destructive thought patterns, behavioral patterns, and emotional responses to uncomfortable situations. Clients don’t have to discuss the traumatic event in-depth or re-open any old wounds to heal mentally and emotionally.
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Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
REBT is an approach that helps you identify irrational beliefs and negative thought patterns that may lead to emotional or behavioral issues. Once you’ve identified these patterns, a therapist will help you develop strategies to replace them with more rational thought patterns.
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Art Therapy
The use of artistic methods to treat psychological disorders and enhance mental health is known as art therapy. Art therapy is a technique rooted in the idea that creative expression can foster healing and mental well-being. The goal of art therapy is to utilize the creative process to help people explore self-expression and, in doing so, find new ways to gain personal insight and develop new coping skills. The creation or appreciation of art is used to help people explore emotions, develop self-awareness, cope with stress, boost self-esteem, and work on social skills.
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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is a type of psychotherapy that emphasizes acceptance as a way to deal with negative thoughts, feelings, symptoms, or circumstances. It also encourages increased commitment to healthy, constructive activities that uphold your values or goals. ACT therapists operate under a theory that suggests that increasing acceptance can lead to increased psychological flexibility.1 This approach carries a host of benefits, and it may help people stop habitually avoiding certain thoughts or emotional experiences, which can lead to further problems.
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Brainspotting
Brainspotting therapy is a type of alternative therapy that uses spots in a person’s visual field to help them process trauma. It accesses trauma trapped in the subcortical brain, the area of the brain responsible for motion, consciousness, emotions, and learning. Brainspotting works on the theory that feelings from trauma can become stuck in the body, leading to both physical and mental ailments. It is believed that the brain’s memory of a particular trauma or incident is “reset” in the body and brain through Brainspotting.
How to find a therapist that is right for you.
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You could want to go to therapy to sort out and unlearn unhelpful belief systems, have a safe space to vent, learn boundaries and communication techniques, needing outside perspective on situations, to deal with mood changes and overwhelming feelings, manage stress and anxiety, or to confront your truth.
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Google search therapists in your area with keywords in relation to what you are struggling with: Trauma, C-PTSD, Cult Recovery, Narcissistic Abuse, Relational Trauma, Spiritual Abuse, Substance Abuse
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During the initial consultation ask questions like, “What is your specialty?”, “What is your therapeutic approach?”, “What do you charge and do you offer services on a sliding scale?”, “What is your educational background and licensing?”
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Set a schedule, whether it’s weekly, once every other week or monthly. If you want your new therapist to be familiar with your background, send them a link to this website so they can familiarize themselves with our specific issues. Make sure to tell them what you want out of therapy.
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The right therapist will support you, listen, make you feel safe, help you set goals, have healthy boundaries, be culturally competent, NOT make life decisions for you, help you discover your own answers and they will not push their own agenda onto you.
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If they give you “homework,” do it. Stay consistent and trust the process, even when it gets tough. Practice self care after sessions. It’s okay to tell your therapist that some methods don’t work for you, too. The right therapist will work with you and meet you where you are.
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Keep looking for a therapist until you find the right fit. We may feel and exaggerated sense of obligation to stick with someone, even if we don’t feel it’s right. It is okay to look for other options. Clients don’t owe professionals indefinite loyalty or obedience.
Its okay to be nervous and second guess the help. We were taken advantage of by people in this position - but real help is out there and it works.
Therapist Directories
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International Cultic Studies Association
Counseling Resources
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Psychology Today
National Therapist Directory
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National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color
Therapist Directory
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Open Path Psychotherapy Collective
Low-Income Therapy Options
What You Need To Know About Emotional Abuse
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What is Emotional Abuse?
Emotional abuse is a pattern of behavior in which the perpetrator insults, humiliates and generally instills fear in an individual in order to control them. The Individual’s reality may become distorted as they internalize the abuse as their own failings. Emotional abuse is one of the hardest forms of abuse to recognize. It can be subtle and insidious or overt and manipulative.
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Emotional Abuse as a method of control.
Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame or otherwise manipulate another person. In general, a relationship is emotionally abusive when there is a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviors that wear down a person’s self-esteem and undermine their mental health.
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Emotional Abuse tears down your sense of self.
Over time, the accusations, verbal abuse, name-calling, criticisms and gaslighting erode a victim’s sense of self so much that they can no longer see themselves realistically. Consequently, the victim may begin to agree with the abuse and become internally critical. It chips away at their self-esteem and they begin to doubt their perceptions and reality.
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Impacts of Emotional Abuse.
Emotional abuse can even impact friendships because emotionally abused people often worry about how people truly see them and if they truly like them. When emotional abuse is severe and ongoing, the wounds are invisible to others; hidden in self-doubt, worthlessness and self-loathing. Research indicates that the consequences of emotional abuse are just as severe as those from physical abuse.
Signs of Emotional Abuse
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Unrealistic Expectations
Expecting you to put everything aside and meet their needs.
Demanding you to spend all of your time together.
Being dissatisfied no matter how hard you try or how much you give.
Criticizing you for not completing tasks according to their standards.
Expecting you to agree and share all their opinions - i.e. you are not allowed to have a different opinion.
Demanding that you name exact dates and times when discussing things that upset you.
Expect you to read their minds and know what they are thinking, only to end up disappointing them.
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Invalidate You.
Undermining, dismissing or distorting your perceptions of your reality.
Refusing to accept your feelings by trying to define how you should feel.
Requiring you to explain how you feel over and over.
Refusing to acknowledge or accept your opinions or ideas as valid.
Dismissing your requests, wants and needs as ridiculous or unmerited.
Suggesting that your perceptions are wrong or that you cannot be trusted by saying you blow things out of proportion.
Accusing you of selfish, needy or materialistic if you express your wants or needs.
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Use Emotional Blackmail
Manipulating and controlling you through guilt.
Humiliating you in public or private.
Using your fears, values, compassion to control you or the situation.
Exaggerating your flaws or pointing them out in order to deflect attention or to avoid taking responsibility for their mistakes.
Denying that an event took place or lying about it.
Punishing you by withholding affection or shunning.
Making confusing and contradictory statements.
Abusers make personal jokes about you and if you object, they’ll tell you to lighten up.
They say you put yourself in the position to be hurt.
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Control and Isolate
Controlling who you see or spend time with including friends and family.
Monitoring you through text messages, social media and email.
Criticizing your friends, family and co-workers.
Coercing you into spending all your time together.
Controlling the finances.
Tell you “everybody” thinks you’re crazy or “they all say” you’re wrong.
Lecturing your errors with long monologues makes it clear they think you’re beneath them.
Unpredictable emotional swings of rage and affection that keep you walking on eggshells.
Survivors Explain Emotional Abuse
Additional Mental Health Support
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Teen Line
Teen Line is an anonymous, nonjudgmental space for youth. Through our hotline, teens can access personal peer-to-peer support from highly trained teens supervised by adult mental health professionals. Our work extends to providing outreach and support to schools and other youth organizations.
Teen Line provides support, resources, and hope to youth through a hotline of professionally trained teen counselors, and works to de-stigmatize and normalize mental health through outreach programs.
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National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a national network of local crisis centers that provides free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the United States.
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Trevor Project
The Trevor Project is the world’s largest suicide prevention and crisis intervention organization for LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning) young people.
Crisis counselors are trained to answer calls, chats, or texts from LGBTQ young people who reach out on our free, confidential and secure 24/7 service when they are struggling with issues such as coming out, LGBTQ identity, depression, and suicide.